Selfishness gets a really bad rap. It’s one of those things people assume they will abuse or misuse, something people assume can only be bad.
Selfishness is actually quite necessary. Putting yourself first is necessary.
This is a lesson some learn painfully.
Sacrificing your wellbeing and self-care costs you your health or sanity. Putting others first all the time leaves you exhausted and resentful. Trying to save everyone else means they never learn to care for themselves, they never learn what they’re capable of, they never reach their potential.
The truth is that if you don’t feed, nourish, and care for yourself first, you have less and less to give others. You have less energy to care for your loved ones, less inspiration to create, less will to work at your full potential, less drive to grow your business or strengthen your career.
My wish for you in 2015 is that you put yourself first, really and truly. Not just some of the time, ALL the time. Not just with friends, with family too. (Yes, even with children.)
Believe enough in your ability to love that you know loving yourself first doesn’t stop you from loving others.
Making this change in my life has affected everything. It gave me more courage and confidence. It allowed me to cherish my relationships and to actually give more because my well is always flowing rather than feeling tapped out.
Give it a try. Commit to putting yourself first for a full day. Grow that to two or three days and eventually a week. Keep doing it until it’s a daily practice, until you no longer have to remind yourself to dedicate the first and last few minutes of your day to you and only you.
And watch magic happen. I promise you it’s worth it.